How to Respond When Concerned About the Safety of a Loved One
Realizing a loved one may be struggling with their safety—whether due to mental health challenges, substance use, or other risks—can feel overwhelming. While the situation may be delicate, your support can make a significant difference. Here's how to approach this difficult conversation and take steps to help.
Recognizing the Signs
Pay attention to warning signs that your loved one may be struggling, including:
Withdrawing from friends, family, or activities they once enjoyed.
Expressing feelings of hopelessness, sadness, or despair.
Changes in sleep, appetite, or energy levels.
Talking about wanting to harm themselves or others.
Increased use of drugs or alcohol.
Approach with Care
Start the conversation with compassion and without judgment. Use these strategies to foster a supportive dialogue:
Choose the right time and place: Find a quiet, private moment to talk when neither of you is rushed or distracted.
Use “I” statements: Express your feelings without placing blame. For example, say, “I’ve noticed you’ve seemed really down lately, and I’m worried about you.”
Listen actively: Let them share their feelings without interruption. Validate their emotions and avoid dismissing their experiences.
Offer Support, Not Solutions
It’s natural to want to "fix" the problem, but your loved one may not be ready for solutions. Instead, focus on offering support:
Ask how you can help: “What can I do to support you right now?”
Encourage professional help: Gently suggest reaching out to a therapist, counselor, or crisis hotline. Offer to assist in finding resources or attending appointments if they’re open to it.
Respect their autonomy: While it’s important to express your concerns, remember that the decision to seek help ultimately lies with them—unless immediate safety is at risk.
When Immediate Action Is Needed
If your loved one is in immediate danger of harming themselves or others, take action:
Contact emergency services: Call 911 and inform them of the situation, requesting mental health support if possible.
Reach out to crisis resources: The National Suicide Prevention Lifeline (988) and local crisis hotlines provide 24/7 support.
Stay with them: If safe to do so, remain present until professional help arrives.
Take Care of Yourself
Supporting a loved one through a crisis can be emotionally exhausting. Be sure to care for your own mental health by seeking support from friends, family, or a therapist. At Discover Hope, we help families and individuals navigate difficult moments with compassion and care. If you’re concerned about a loved one’s safety, we can provide guidance and resources to support both you and them.
If you or someone you know is struggling, don’t hesitate to reach out. Help is always available.
